Self-fulfilling prophesy. What does that phrase mean to you?
Recently I was visiting with an actress who said she rarely forgot her lines early in her career. In theatre, this phenomenon is called “going up.” But as she matured in her craft, her “going up” happened more frequently.
“Why do you think that is?” I asked.
She paused and thought for a moment, a finger to her lips. “Well, I became more afraid that it would happen.” She said that the more she worried, the more likely her lines were to fly out of her head.
As the conversation continued, she went on to say that her mother’s biggest fear was that she’d run away from home at age 18. And guess what: her mother’s worry created conditions that made it unbearable to stay. The fear clearly manifested.
A few years ago I went through a phase where I double faulted on the tennis court so often that I started serving underhanded. Why? Because the more I double faulted, the more I worried about it. Though I’ve played tennis most of my life and have strong muscle memory of the service motion, my body created what I feared. It was pretty embarrassing at the time. I overcame it through meditation and visualization of my service motion and the ball landing between the lines. It took some time, but now I rarely double fault. I’m not afraid anymore.
What fears are running on replay in your head? Do you believe in the power of worry to create your reality?
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